why are we unhappy as a nation.

i have worked withe “best”  organisations in Pakistan, i strongly believe intelligence, credentials, education, morality,knowledge mean nothing in Pakistan. The haves are as bitter and greedy as the poor!


In every society some people have a greater share of valued resources! these create Social Inequality and Exclusion of a large section of the society!

Material assets such as money, property, education (institutional credibility, and paper certification), health and power than others. (knowledge isn’t included in the list obviously) are an important source of societal power.

these social resources can be divided into three forms of capital

-economic capital in the form of material assets and income;

cultural capital such as educational qualifications and status; and

social capital in the form of networks of contacts and social associations.

Often these three forms of capital overlap and one can be converted into the other. For example a person from a well-off family can afford expensive higher education and so can acquire cultural or educational capital.

Individually What makes people happy is different for everyone — and it’s a good thing! But collectively if the gloom and doom mentality takes over there is a escapist and suicidal pattern that develops unhealthily in the society, recent events have been a proof of that. Pakistanis don’t feel a a sense of well being in the current setup of last five yaers. the government has done nothing to ease this anxiety and there is an inherent indifference on its parts that seems uninterested in the matters of priority no matter how bad the situation gets.

Patterns of unequal access to social resources are commonly called social inequality. Social inequality reflects innate differences between individuals for example their varying abilities and efforts. Someone may be endowed with exceptional intelligence or talent or may have worked very hard to achieve their wealth and status. However by and large social inequality is not the outcome of innate or natural differences between people but is produced by the society in which they live.

The Happiest Countries In The World

The top ten:

  1. Denmark
  2. Switzerland
  3. Austria
  4. Iceland
  5. The Bahamas
  6. Finland
  7. Sweden
  8. Bhutan
  9. Brunei
  10. Canada

The happiest place on earth. Denmark ranks at the top of the list. Yep, the country where Van Gogh was shot to death and the controversial cartoon riots began is the happiest place on earth. The citizens of Denmark, the happiest country, have the most leisure time available per day, at 16.06 hours. How did they judge it?

> Life satisfaction score:
> Employment rate:
> Self-reported good health:
> Employees working long hours:
> Disposable income:
> Educational attainment:
> Life expectancy:

unhappiest place on the planet, according to White, is the African nation of Burundi.

In an article published as  The 10 Things Economics Can Tell Us About country wise Happiness  the author states the following to be major causes of unhappiness

1) Generally speaking, richer countries are happier countries (see above). But since many of these rich countries share other traits — they’re mostly democracies with strong property rights traditions, for example — some studies suggest that it’s our institutions that are making us happy, not just the wealth. More on that in a second.

2) Generally speaking, richer people are happier people. But young people and the elderly appear less influenced by having more money.

3) But money has diminishing returns — like just about everything else. Satisfaction rises with income until about $75,000 (or perhaps as high as $120,000). After that, researchers have had trouble proving that more money makes that much of a difference. Other factors — like marriage quality and health — become more relatively important than money. It might be the case that richer people use their money to move to richer areas, where they no longer feel rich. Non-economists might chalk this up to the “keeping up with the Jones'” principle.

3a) The diminishing-returns principle is true for entire countries, too… The “Easterlin Paradox” suggests that once a developed country passes a threshold average income, more growth doesn’t increase average reported happiness.
3b) … but there might be exceptions — or the whole theory might be wrong!. Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, disagreeing with Easterlin in a widely read paper, have showed that some countries, such as Japan and Italy, have clearly rising levels of well-being alongside rising GDP.
4) Income inequality reduces well-being, and higher public spending increases well-being. These conclusions have been reached many times … and called into question many times. Most interestingly, “perceived social mobility” might mitigate the effects of income inequality. If people think they can move up the income ladder, they’re willing to tolerate a huge equality gap.

5) Unemployment just makes you miserable. Across most surveys, nothing correlates with unhappiness more than unemployment, except perhaps for bad health. This effect is particularly strong among men in Great Britain, Germany, and the U.S. There is an odd silver lining: Being around lots of other unemployed people makes us feel better about not having a job. So high-unemployment regions can possibly “neutralize” the negative effects of unemployment, but that shouldn’t make you feel good about them.

6) Inflation makes you pretty unhappy, too. But its effect is weaker than unemployment. The mixed evidence seems to suggest that a volatile inflation rate decreases well-being, but in countries with generally stable prices, a little inflation has a small effect on happiness. And guess whose happiness inflation ruins the most? Right-wingers, apparently.

7) Working more hours makes you happier … until it makes you miserable. As workers move from part-time work to full-time work, they’re happier. But as they move from full-time work to Jesus-when-will-this-day-finally-end work, the joy of labor subsides. There seems to be an “inverse U-shaped relationship” between hours worked and subjective well-being, although the precise figures differ across countries. Fascinatingly, one study found that, although working long regular hours correlates negatively with well-being, “working overtime has a positive effect on job satisfaction.” Go figure.

8) Commuters are less happy. The studies here are really interesting. Health scientists say that commuting can make you sick and die — not conducive to happiness. Daniel Kahneman’s research on female happiness found that while commuting, women experienced the “lowest ratio of positive to negative emotions during the day.” One study pegged the magic number at 22: If your commute is more than 22 minutes, there is an appreciable decline in reported well-being. Yet another study found that for every 10 minutes of additional commuting, community involvement falls by 10 percent.

9) Self-employed people are happier. When workers think they’re good at their job and that their bosses like them, they’re more satisfied. So it makes sense that when they are their own boss, they’re happier to work. A famous OECD study found that the self-employed “typically report higher levels of overall job satisfaction than the employed.” But another study suggests that only rich self-employed people are happier to be self-employed.

10) Debt sucks. The kind of debt matters. Mortgage debt doesn’t correlate much with happiness. Credit card debt does — in a negative way. Either way, high debt correlates strongly with anxiety and depression.
Research shows that the one thing that provides happiness is our collective experiences.

24/7 Wall St. examined the 10 countries with the highest life satisfaction scores to find the strongest factors related to happiness.

Economic prosperity appears to be one of the strongest factors that relates to overall life satisfaction.
Employment is one of the most obvious causes of satisfaction
After economic stability, physical and social well-being are the largest determinants for happiness.
Not surprisingly, having enough leisure time affects a person’s mental health and strongly impacts happiness

How to Be Happy as a Pakistani :

Ofcourse we have external factors to be worried about and which affect our own sense of balancing and juggling life in Pakistan. But here is soemthing to look forward to. these expeierinces will actually make us better. for future.

Get Rid of the NEED for material possessions,  instead focus on the accumulation of knowledge or skill that results from direct participation in events or activities. Such as philanthropic works of value.

Experiences are open to positive reinterpretations. cos experinces for meomries, collective conciousness and documentation of zietgeist

Experiences are a meaningful part of our identity. often involve economic goals and accomplishments, which usually initiate happy feelings.

Experiences contribute to more successful relationships.Experiencing an event together brings you closer to community. It’s cathartic and even fun to talk about your experience, especially if it was a complete disaster!


US rejects high Pakistan fees for supply routes: official

I hope the US and its pressure group buddies stop playing big brother it has failed in the past during cold war, acting like an adjustment bureau with Pakistan. I hope they takes NATO routes out of Pakistan. while we deal with this corrupt democratic rule the corruptocracy ourselves!

Aman ke bhasha and Iqbal

Pakistani national poet gets a chowk in his name in Nerul – The Times of India Literary lovers have been pleasantly surprised to see a Nerul chowk named after the renowned Urdu and Farsi poet, Dr Allama Iqbal, who wrote the iconic song Saare jahaan se achchha, Hindustan hamaara.

Respect shown to allama mohammad iqbal. saray jahan se acha divided subcontinent hamara. much grateful for this sweetness

A bold and simple mode of life

taking free style writing n Pakistani style over analysis seriously to a whole new level!

HILARIOUS! commonsensical on #savingface http://is.gd/zmWBjC

on the other hand, heh. i can understand why would any one hate a muslim? we need to be re packaged and not as above, muslims are egotistical and lost in various wrongly assumed quranic translations of quran. thats ok. and “as plain as my bigotry is to see” and i like that confusion [cos you have to be an Asian, and in Pakistanis shoes to totally ‘get it’ ]

The splendour of a monarch great is worthless for the free and bold:
Where lies the grandeur of a king, whose riches rest on borrowed gold?
You pin your faith on idols vain and turn your back on Mighty God:
If this is not unbelief and sin, what else is unbelief and fraud?

Luck favours the fool and the mean, and exalts and lifts to the skies
Only those who are base and low and know not how to patronize.

One look from the eyes of the Fair can make a conquest of the heart:
There is no charm in the fair sweet, If it lacks this alluring art.

I am a target for the hate of the mighty rich and the great,
As I know the end of Caesars great and know the freaks of luck or fate.

To be a person great and strong is the end and aim of all;
But that rank is not real and true that is attained by the ego’s fall.

My bold and simple mode of life has captured each and every heart;
Though my numbers are lame and dull And lay no claim to poet’s art.

i d like to address this double standard issue through a system of thought i happily subscribe to [as pro regionalism, non taliban,neoliberal nationalist, proudly present in the definition of quran] being rather skeptical of globally imposed western school of “thought”, which hysterically, is totally Islamic in practice! allama is the best person to understanding Quran, allama iqbal had stream of consciousness and a bit of wine to become shair e mashriq, and beautifully delivers Easts understanding of good western progress, and what all man kind including all kinds of Muslim definitions must become. Must watch.

The only way out is Through!

In silence there is eloquence. Stop weaving and watch how the pattern improves.
Transformation: By Jalaluddin Rumi.

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Chapter 2

When the world knows beauty as beauty, ugliness arises
When it knows good as good, evil arises
Thus being and non-being produce each other
Difficult and easy bring about each other
Long and short reveal each other
High and low support each other
Music and voice harmonize each other
Front and back follow each other
Therefore the sages:
Manage the work of detached actions
Conduct the teaching of no words
They work with myriad things but do not control
They create but do not possess
They act but do not presume
They succeed but do not dwell on success
It is because they do not dwell on success
That it never goes away

Inspiration: Bracha L. Ettinger

themes: human subjectivity, feminine sexuality, maternal subjectivity, psychoanalysis, art and aesthetics fertility eternity creativity femininity good luck happiness knowledge transformation

Being Muslim: a balanced individual

Talking about religion gets people hyper, vocal, holier than thou and abusive. I believe faith is about calmness and keeping hope, moderate activism and creating and encouraging balance and harmony. after countless passionate discussions, on exhaustive religious differences , i still felt empty after winning every argument. Something changed since 2007, few meetings over a  year with baba (the first person who recognized my “weirdness” and asked me to write) since i found writing allow more explicit  and decontextualized interaction, than speech, which depends on a spontaneous, shared situation which i abhorred briefly, his non judgmental interactions made me see and feel things differently.  Funny how with him i never discussed religion but he still made me grow, i find writing about religion and other combative issues alot easier now.

– Human rights! And responsibilities

Most western (i.e Western culture , Western civilization or European civilization) theories are extremist about their ideology,  they focus on the self centered need  /rights of citizens but doesn’t address “responsibility” to other community and world at large. words like Moderation , Regularity , Rest , BALANCE , Activity are lost in the ideology of speed, fast lane, look busy, Now an abundance of “rights” and scarce encouragement of “responsibilities” generates imbalance, inequalities and unrest.

civil and military “Responsibilities” are the foundation of all human “rights”; without responsibilities, there will automatically be no rights.

From an Islamic perspective, there are six essential elements to generating a culture of recognition of rights and responsibilities:

• Awareness of the need to appreciate others
• Acknowledgement of others needs over your own needs
• Appreciation of self first, then others
• Acceptance of your role as a giver
• Action of recognition that leads to constant ethical acts which become habits
• Accountability whereby each individual asks this simple question: What have I done to deserve to be a citizen of this country and how am I contributing to the well-being of others?

Deepak Chopra: the personal and collective growth guru. just reiterates the above on finding balance along with his hindu/buddhist teachings: Amazing stuff!

1. Know that the world “out there” reflects your reality “in here.” The people
you react to most strongly, whether with love or hate, are projections of your
inner world.

2. Shed the burden of judgment – you will feel much lighter. Judgment imposes
right and wrong on situations that just are.

3. Don’t contaminate your body with toxins, either through food , drink, or
toxic emotions. Your body is more than a life-support system.

4. Replace fear-motivated behavior with love-motivated behavior. Fear is the
product of memory, which dwells in the past.

5. Understand that the physical world is just a mirror of a deeper intelligence.
Intelligence is the invisible organizer of all matter and energy, and since a
portion of this intelligence resides in you, you share in the organizing power
of the cosmos.

Adapted from Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, by Deepak Chopra
(Three Rivers Press, 1998).